I love it when I see pronouns after someone's name. What it tells me is this person is safe. I can trust someone who puts pronouns after their name to be a genuine ally to transgender people and those who love them. I can safety read or interact with them and know transphobia isn't going to suddenly come out of nowhere and slam me to the ground.

I don't do it myself because emotionally I want to protect myself from drawing transphobic hate. It is too personal to me and I need to marshal my emotional resources. I'm grateful to others who aren't as emotionally vulnerable who do share their pronouns publically.

There is no need for everyone to do so. If it bothers you don't do it. Why does it offend you if some people choose to? It is a wonderful gift to some of us. Why would you begrudge that?

If you have a gender neutral name and you are not trans it is a minor annoyance or maybe even amusing when people get your gender wrong. If you are trans having people use the wrong pronouns can be very distressing.

I really appreciate the respectfulness with which you wrote this article. These are good conversations to have so we can understand each other.

For the record, I am cisgender (not trans).